How it All Began...
We decided on adoption because we were going through a very difficult time in our life in literally every way. We already had two little ones under the age of two and another baby was going to be very difficult financially and emotionally. We were not in a good place in our relationship and there might not have been a future for us. My not having a job wasn't helping either.
How did Angel Adoption help you choose adoption?
Angel Adoption helped me by being very understanding and positive. They never made me feel like I was a horrible person for it.
What were your concerns going into the adoption process?
I was concerned about the whole thing. What if I chose the wrong family? What if the baby hates me once he all grown up? Or what if my children resent me for it in the future?
What helped ease your concerns while going through the adoption process?
Angel helped get in contact with people around my area that would make the process happen.
How did Angel Adoption help you through the adoption process?
Angel put me in contact with a social worker who helped me through the whole process. She is also a counselor and helped me with everything. From contacting the family to when I needed just someone to talk to. I am glad to say to this day she is still a very good friend.
What were you looking for in an adoptive family?
I just wanted to know the baby would be cared for and loved and wouldn't go without. Someone that was of good morals and would raise baby right. The family I chose is just that: both very polite, happy loving people and, most of all, they are all about family.
How did your baby's adoptive family help you through the adoption process?
The adoptive family helped us financially and emotionally. They were there through most of the pregnancy. It was her first baby, so she was overjoyed to be able to be a part of it and so was I.
What type of adoption did you choose, and why?
We have an open adoption. The family is very nice and we communicate often. I get pictures and they got to meet my children and feel very fond of them, so we keep in touch as much as we can.
Describe your thoughts and emotions before and after the baby's birth.
I didn't want adoption at first, but I knew that's what was best for my baby. I was sad and concerned at first, then I started talking to the adoptive family, got to know them, and they got to know us. We got really close. I trust them and know the baby is going to be fine and grow up to be great.
What are you looking forward to now that the adoption process is completed?
Now I'm just looking forward to him growing up and us being able to be a part of it. Even though he is not living with us, we all love him. He is part of our family.
What advice would you give to other pregnant women who are considering adoption?
My advice would be just do what's right for baby. It's very hard and it hurts, but just knowing he or she will be better should be enough. And the right family will be open to your needs of seeing or interacting with your baby.
